In the next couple of articles, I will write about how attraction plays an important role in dancing and how we can develop an attractive dance style. There are many characteristics that make up for an attractive dance style. This is why it’s such a difficult topic to teach. Here are some of the characteristics that I think make your dancing more attractive: considerate, macho, skilled, courage, mirroring, humor and sexual tension.
Today’s article is about finding the balance between being a considerate dancer and being a macho dancer:
Becoming a considerate dancer is very good. As a considerate dancer, you show compassion and love. The considerate dancer makes sure their partner has an enjoyable dance by not creating any “inconsiderate” situations. The considerate dancer thinks about how their hand is placed: not too low, high, light or hard. Eye contacts are established only briefly, just to quickly read if we are doing anything that could be inconsiderate. The considerate dancer adapts and changes their movements to make sure the partner moves in a way that is comfortable for them.
A macho dancer is overly aggressive and insensitive to the partner. We look at macho dancers and see that they are strong-willed and force their way through a move. As a macho dancer, you are strong. You hold eye contact just a bit longer. This means that you put in movement that demands higher tension and moves that are more sexually loaded.
A key aspect of building an attractive dance style is to take the best from both worlds, and balance their dosages. From an energy point of view, you can think of macho dancing as a tension builder, whereas considerate dancing releases tension. Attraction is the emotion that is created by releasing built-up tension. If you start recognizing this description, it’s because you already read my articles “Humor on the dance floor” – and “Use humor to build courage in interacting with others”: http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=187845060956&topic=11323
Have you heard of the saying: a laughing woman is halfway in your bed? It’s because laughter is caused by the energy release built up by tension. It’s a matter of how much tension you build up vs. how much you release that makes the difference between friendly laughter or a sexually loaded emotion. Katja and I taught a series of classes on this topic where we showed how we can use certain moves and techniques to play with different levels of tension and release to create laughter, attraction or sexual tension.
What do you do to make your dancing more attractive?
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Ali
